Wednesday, December 19, 2012
Let's start by acknowledging that no matter what we feel should be the outcome of the Sandy Hook horror, our opinions originate in what we each believe is the best interest of our citizens. Regardless of what the talking heads are saying...*I* have certainly not been desensitized. I have had an ache in my chest since the news began to unfold. I am mourning for each of those families and am just as confused and outraged as the rest of the country that nightmares like this ever happen.
I just don't know if my brain can take another second of the guns vs. no guns debate. I have come to believe the outcome depends on whether you are thinking with your head or your heart. After the horrific events in Connecticut, it's a normal reaction to say, "No more guns!" I get it. I've been there. You just want a quick band-aid. A stiff drink. Something to make you think it will never happen again. I hear you. Seeing the faces of the children and hearing the stories of the heartbroken parents is more than most of us can bear.
I have a saying that my kids are sick of hearing...my own personal "mom mantra" --"Unfortunately the easy way is not usually the right way." It applies to most things. Most times the "right thing" is the tougher road, the more effort, the uncomfortable choice. Speaking up if someone is gossiping about a mutual friend, resisting peer pressure, giving back the extra $20 the cashier gave you by mistake, etc.
I am not among the stalwart gun defenders here. I don't own a gun and, if the truth be told, I am a bit scared of guns. I won't lie...my heart often says, "No more guns!" But, my head knows this is not the right answer. It won't fix anything. It's the easy answer and the right road is a long, uncomfortable one where we have to examine mental illness, divorce, government intervention, labeling, mainstreaming, valuing life and personal responsibility.
Americans don't like to talk about anything that might cause them guilt. They'd rather point the finger at an inanimate object and carry on exactly what they were doing before this happened. So, we'll probably pass some assault weapon laws and this will happen again and we'll be right back where we started...
But at the end of the day, all other arguments aside, the list of leaders that have banned gun control should give even the most fanatical anti-gun advocate pause. Shouldn't it?