Tuesday, December 04, 2012
Better Safe Than in Denial...
What do you think of drug testing your teen(s)?
I am a fan.
Someone recently accused me a being a hypocrite because I embrace a very limited government ideology, yet "violate" my teen's privacy by randomly forcing him to pee in a cup. I wish I could have accused them of being a dolt, since it's not the government testing my child...it's me...the parent.
Drugs are rampant in his school. Many of the parents in the neighborhood are in serious denial, but addiction has been a multi-generational issue in The Man's family and who truly knows the Nature/Nurture split.
It does suck I feel the need when he is barely 14. But, this is the reality of where we live. Four test and four negatives. So I'm incredibly thankful for that. Yet, hesitantly thankful as he is only 14 (though 14 going on 25). But I feel it gives him an out:
"Hey J, wanna hit this green?"
"Nah dude, my parents are total nut jobs that test my shit."
Well, that's how I imagine it going down anyway...
I know there are some people against it. Something about Parent/Teen trust and bonding. Then again, some people believe everyone gets a trophy and winning doesn't count and that "use your words" is a productive phrase.
I WISH there would have been OTC drug tests when I was a teen --I would have gladly peed in a cup a few times a year for a bit more leeway. I say the negative result is what builds the trust.
Do I like doing it? No way, I'm scared to death each time it'll be positive and I will no longer be able to wallow in denial. So far, so good.