Monday, May 16, 2011
Will You Marry Me...if You're a Republican That Is?
"The gulf between Democrats and Republicans isn't just between red states and blue states; a new study finds that people tend to marry within their own political party — potentially widening the gulf between liberals and conservatives.
In fact, spouses are more likely to be similar politically than they are likely to have matching personalities, according to the new research, which will be published in the Journal of Politics.
Surprisingly, personality "doesn't seem as important to us as our notions of how other people should behave and the way society should be structured," said study author John Hibbing, a political scientist at the University of Nebraska.
Earlier work has shown that people tend to sort themselves into likeminded neighborhoods and workplaces, Hibbing told LiveScience. What was interesting about the new study, he said, was the finding that couples came into their relationships already matched on political beliefs. Folk wisdom often holds that mates become more and more similar as they go through life together, either because they share experiences or because they influence each other's beliefs. But in reality, people seem to be sorting themselves out by ideology, Hibbing said... (Read the Whole Article)
Speaking of marriage and politics, a friend of mine recently had a strange phenomenon happen to her twice. One of the nice things about being on a site like Match.com is that you can see someone's politics before you ever have to speak to them. So, a few weeks ago, she agreed to go out with one guy after they'd been emailing and talking on the phone for a bit. He had himself listed as Republican so politics hadn't really come up during their initial conversations. Then they meet. And he's a Bush hater that voted for Obama. She questions him and he says, "I am a Republican, I just hate Bush and didn't like McCain." That was a one and done.
Enter Second guy. Seems nice. She decided to go out with him even though he really wasn't her type. Father of three. Listed as Conservative (not just Republican) and BAM! At dinner and he drops the 'I voted for Obama' --not only did he vote for Obama, he didn't regret it. Then somehow my blog comes up and he gets volatile in the restaurant, 'Call your friend and we'll debate. Let's see if she can convince me that George Bush wasn't the biggest retard that ever lived." Then he gets irate with the waitress because she agrees with my friend that no matter how old men get, they're on Match looking for a 20 year old.
I begged her to quiz him on this lying-about-being-a-Conservative phenomenon on dating sites. If Mr. Cell Phone Co. Exec is reading this waiting for me to debate him on George Bush's intelligence, he can tell us why he perpetrated being sane when he was in fact an Obamatron. I would think people (especially in the Philly area) would lie the other way...