Monday, November 19, 2007

"It's Always the Boyfriend..."

If I had a dollar for every time my mom has said that to me... And it seems now researchers and case workers agree. "Wait until you get married" isn't just a moral admonition, it's a practical warning for would-be moms dating would-be abusive baby daddies. And abortion IS legal and they're still having them and killing them out of the womb...

"...Six-year-old Oscar Jimenez Jr. was beaten to death in California, then buried under fertilizer and cement. Two-year-old Devon Shackleford was drowned in an Arizona swimming pool. Jayden Cangro, also 2, died after being thrown across a room in Utah.

In each case, as in many others every year, the alleged or convicted perpetrator had been the boyfriend of the child's mother — men thrust into father-like roles which they tragically failed to embrace.

Every case is different, every family is different. Some single mothers bring men into their lives who lovingly help raise children when the biological father is gone for good.

Nonetheless, many scholars and front-line caseworkers interviewed by The Associated Press see the abusive-boyfriend syndrome as part of a broader trend that deeply worries them. They note an ever-increasing share of America's children grow up in homes without both biological parents, and say the risk of child abuse is markedly higher in the nontraditional family structures.

"This is the dark underbelly of cohabitation," said Brad Wilcox, a sociology professor at the University of Virginia. "Cohabitation has become quite common, and most people think, 'What's the harm?' The harm is we're increasing a pattern of relationships that's not good for children..." (Read the entire article)

Speaking of that, it really aggravates me that every correspondence I get from the boys' school says "guardian"...I'm their damn mother.

(Baby Daddy drama tee sold here)

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