The girls were all passing this around at the dojo last night and I enjoyed it so much I had to share...!
"Dojo Mojo: Get Frisky Like Bruce Lee" (Women's Health Magazine, October 2006)
"The million-plus women who unleash their inner Uma in martial arts studios across the country are learning more than just self-defense. "Martial arts are based on principles of movement and leverage," says Jennifer Lawler, Ph.D., a black belt in tae kwon do and author of Dojo Wisdom. "And you can use those principles in the bedroom." Even if you've never worn a gi (those funky white pajamas), you can still apply these kick-ass techniques between the sheets — no actual kicking necessary.
Dojo Lesson #1: Shout It Out
Staying quiet during karate or sex is counterproductive. "Holding back sound holds back energy, including sexual energy," says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., a sexologist and black belt in shotokan karate. For a shout that will focus your passion, try a kiai: Breathe deeply down into your abdomen, then contract your abs as you release the air with a loud, staccato "Ai!" Belt one out to help achieve orgasm or let out a series of softer ones to intensify that blissful feeling.
Dojo Lesson #2: Let Your Hips Rip
In martial arts, the hips are the center of stability and power. "Instead of throwing a punch from just the shoulder, you turn your hip into it," Dr. Lawler says. The benefit? A stronger punch fortified by core-muscle power. Using your hips can be just as satisfying in the sack: When on top, rotate your hips like you're spinning a hula-hoop, or make half circles like a windshield wiper. "It stimulates the side walls of the vagina and gets the blood flowing to the genitals faster," Dr. Cadell says.
Dojo Lesson #3: Forget the Goal
In karate, as in life, expectations can get you into trouble. You spend so much time thinking about what you wish would happen that you don't savor what is happening. When practicing "no mind," the martial artist is open to anything and attached to nothing, Dr. Lawler says. Translation: Stop worrying about reaching orgasm and enjoy the ride.
Dojo Lesson #4: Quiet Your Mind
Great warriors tune out everything but the enemy. "In a fight, distractions are deadly," Dr. Lawler says. In the bedroom, your internal debate over shrimp kebabs versus enchiladas for dinner is just as fatal to your pleasure. Jettison those distractions by silently describing exactly what your partner is doing. By the time you get to "He's spelling the alphabet with his tongue," you probably won't need to keep track."