Read Part I
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Ok, one thing I left out was brought up by catzmeow,
"One thing to mention is that you have to pay attention to kids in the 9-18 year old age group, as well. It's not just adult males."
That's absolutely true. His story is tragically typical. Another thing Family Court handles is juvenile crime, so I see many CSC cases perpetrated by juvenile offenders. That is probably one of the best points brought up on this thread and I can’t believe I forgot to mention it.
As far as Redleg's comment, yeah. In many ways you are correct in your statement.
Another comment asked,
"There have to be common personality traits these ass-bags share to be able to do this to kids."
My answer is I wish I knew what they were, because I would be a rich man, or in jail myself with a lot of job satisfaction. My experience is these perpetrators are highly un-predictable. Remember they’re con artists first, pedophiles second. The only thing they seem to obviously have in common is that they are usually white males. I’ve only seen statutory rapes come out of the Black or Mexican communities, but I’ve heard of child CSCs happening. Once your little girl starts to look like woman, then worry about the minority community. Until then, your child is very unlikely statistically to be victimized by an African American. We do have cases come out of the Arab and our limited Asian population (Michigan has a gigantic Arab/Middle Eastern population) but I’d have to say to a lesser extent than whites. The only Black pedophiles I’m familiar with is Michael Jackson (And if you can’t spot that guy… just give up protecting your kid now.)
All that profiling aside- just be wary of everyone… just to be safe.
Some common traits are-
1: Molested in their youth or otherwise abused.
2: Seems to really like kids, working with them, and being around them. They often have pictures of kids (Even if they don’t have any) at their desk at work, car, and all over the house.
3: Watch them watch kids. Draw a laser beam from their eyes to the kid. If a guys checking out a four year olds ass, that’s a bad sign.
4: Watch the guys kids if he has any. If they appear to be very submissive or slightly afraid/shy, or react negatively to a man’s (any man’s) touch.
5: And as I’ve said, 90% of the time they're white.
As far as D-NC's comment - I just go ahead and freak out my kid. I choose not to think of her as scared, just wary. I’d rather have a paranoid daughter than a molested one. I’ve tried to fill her with brutal awareness. This sounds ruff I know (And maybe it is?) but when you’ve seen what I’ve seen, it only makes sense.
She only goes to sleepovers at immediate family member’s homes who I’ve know for years. I or a family member is always present at her sporting events. I will only take her to a bonded and insured day-care that is in a “real” building with a staff of more than three at any one time, not just some lady in a house. I only let females I’ve known for a long time baby-sit her at OUR home.
I check every male I reasonably can that she comes into contact with on the Sex Offender Registry, not only in Michigan but in other states. Pedophiles often relocate (Sometimes the other side of the country) once they’re caught, that’s why you should support a federal registry. Pedophiles don’t go from zero to CSC in the 1st Degree with forced penetration. They progressively molest. It starts with touching and moves from there. So, they are often caught for lesser degrees of CSC before they get good at it. The Offender Registry is an invaluable tool in that regard, by screening all who come into contact with your child. If a guy has a CSC… any CSC, even one not against a child… Well, do I really need to tell you?
One of the best ways a parent can harden thier children as a target for abuse is to not be an inviting target. Remember, most pedophiles target children with “problems.” If your child is doing badly in school, is involved in drugs or alcohol (They love to ply/soften up kids with porn and beer.) or has family issues like parents who can’t get along, they are more at risk. Pedophiles target kids like wolves go after sick dear. We don’t call them predators for nothin’. They’re looking for a depressed, needy child, who’s vulnerable. Not healthy, happy, well adjusted kids.
Women, watch who you marry/cohabitate with! This seems so self evident but many women are easily fooled. I see a case every day where the trailer mamma was so happy to have a good man have some interest in her… but let me tell ya, it wasn’t her. So many cases I see are women who just let these people into their homes to live as part of a relationship. Some even ignore prior CSC convictions. If a guy seems too good to be true, he probably is. Be wary of men who want to move in or get married after a short time. Investigate the men you date, or whom your older daughter is dating.
Remember, the neighbor might be a pedophile. That sounds silly and big brotherish, but it’s true. One of the worst molestation cases I’ve worked on was a guy busted for molesting the neighbor boy. We linked him to 43 victims, and god knows how much child porn. This happens all the time. Therefore, don’t let your kids go to other people’s houses that you are little acquainted with. “I’ve met him a few times,” isn’t enough. Know them for YEARS first. Your kid might miss out on some cool sleep- overs, but they also might miss out on victimization.
One other thing people should know about working this end of crime is that there is no bottom. There is not low. No two of these guys are “exactly” alike. There is no “Worst case I ever saw.” They’re all friggin horrible. Just a few hours ago, I was talking to a city officer about my guest post. He told me about the guy being terminated (Parental rights) today whose case he was testifying on. Guess why? Yup, you’re right. Molested his own children. Intestinal pedophile.
We got into discussing some of the things these guys have told us. Things like; “Common, what’s the big deal? Hey man, it was consensual. I mean I know its illegal, but the kid loves it and me, so-so what? I’m not hurting anyone.” The victim was six.
Or, “It might be CSC, but I asked the kid to take his cloths off. He did it, so I’m no child molester. I didn’t force the kid.”
The victim BTW was twelve. He had threatened to kill the victim’s mother if he didn’t go along with oral sex. That’s how they rationalize it. They’re such liars they convince themselves this stupid fucking logic is truth.
These guys are con-men first, pedophiles second. That’s why they’re hard to spot. So be paranoid, and don’t sugar coat the world we live in to your kids if you’re really trying to prepare them for it. Don’t see your children abused out of politeness.